The Package Theory

Looks vs. Personalilty in a female prospect is an age old debate. It rarely comes up between two guys, because no true friend would ever try and set you up with an ugly girl. When you're being set up by a female friend, however, this is very important, because all your friend sees in this prospect is how good a person she may be. That's all well and good, but we all know that how good a person this chick is falls somewhere on my priority list between where she went to college and what her dog's name is. It's one of those things I'll find out at some point, but at first I really couldn't care any less.

I'm not saying that personality isn't important in the long run, but let's face facts here. How often do we really get to the long run. Look at it this way. If you walk into a room and there are two packages on a table that you must choose between, how do you choose? If one them is wrapped in torn dirty newspaper, it's not going to be chosen over one that is carefully and attractively wrapped. Granted, the first may contain a million dollars and the second a pound of dog shit, but you're going to choose the better looking one first. Regardless of how illogical this thinking may turn out to be, it's never going to change.

Women on the other hand, do not see it this way. They actually care what's on the inside regardless of the packaging. For this reason, extreme caution must be used when allowing a female friend to set you up with someone she knows. Yes, she may be a great person and the nicest girl you ever met, but chances are she looks like someone set her face on fire and put it out with a shovel. Does this mean that we're shallow and rude? YES! But we're men dammit, that really shouldn't be breaking news.

There is a downside to this line of thinking. It really can bite you in the ass. I've had a string of attractive women who were nothing but perfect to begin with, but then once that package is opened, turned out to be a truly rotten bitch. Personality does count at some point. But so does a nice rack.